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What Is Shame And Disgrace?
Shame is humiliation by people, while disgrace is public humiliation by people. In short, where you find Shame, you will find disgrace. Before you accept shame or disgrace in your life, you should know that Jesus paid the price for your redemption from both. He suffered shame so that you and I will never suffer it again.
That is why God has promised us in the book of Isaiah 61:7,” Instead of your shame, you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace, you will rejoice in your inheritance, and so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours.”
What are some of the things that can bring shame to a person?
It might be difficult to pinpoint all the situations that can bring shame and disgrace into the life of a person, but just to mention a few, they could be barrenness, poverty, sicknesses, broken relationships, broken marriages, etc
What causes Shame and disgrace in the life of a believer?
- When you are disobedient to God’s Instructions.
In the case of King Saul, due to his disobedience to God’s instructions, he lost his throne. According to 1 Samuel 15:24 Then Saul said to Samuel, “I have sinned.” I violated the Lord’s command and your instructions. I was afraid of the men, and so I gave in to them.“
2. When you put your trust in other men and not God.
We read in the book of Isaiah 30:3,” But Pharaoh’s protection will be to your shame, Egypt’s shade will bring you disgrace.” Nothing or no one can replace God.
3. When we stop praying and rely on our own strategies and wisdom.
It’s only through our prayers that God can notify us of the plans of the devil to bring shame and disgrace to us.
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When a person makes foolish and careless decisions on important issues in life, it can lead to shame. David’s careless and sinful decision to sleep with Uriah’s wife in 2 Samuel 11 later brought him great shame before the Lord.
5. When you are Proud
Pride can lead to shame as we can see in the book of proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, disgrace follows, but with humility comes wisdom.
Let’s pray
1. By the power of the Holy Ghost I command every spirit of shame and disgrace operating in my life and the life of my children to fall down and die, in Jesus name.
2. By the power in the name of Jesus I command every arrow of shame targeted against me, my career, and my family, to go back to the sendners and destroy them, in Jesus name.
3. Holy Ghost put a mark on me and my properties so that the helpers of my destiny assigned to take away my shame and disgrace can locate me easily, in Jesus name.
4. My Father! My Father! send your warring angels to go and destroy every household enemy plotting my downfall through shame and disgrace, in Jesus name.
5. My Father! My Father! send your recovery angels to go to both the land of the living and that of the dead to recover every good thing that I have lost and hence has brought me shame, in Jesus name.
6. By the power in the name of Jesus I decree and declare that I will pursue, overtake and recover all that has been stolen from me through any wrong decision I’ve made in life, in Jesus name.
7. By the power in the Blood of Jesus I come against every hidden and clever devourer in every department of my life, in Jesus name.
8. By the power in the name of Jesus I bind every spirit of poverty and I disconnect myself from every financial trap set to bring shame on me, in Jesus name.
9. By the power of the Holy Ghost I uproot and destroy every arrow of non-achievement as a result of backwardness in any area of my life, in Jesus name.
10. By the power in the Blood of Jesus I decree and declare total destruction of every evil arrow of suffering and death fired at any of the organs of my body by household wickedness, in Jesus name.
11. My Father! My Father! Let every evil power that is frustrating me at the edge of my breakthrough, be frustrated, and let my life and testimonies become too hot to handle by my enemies, in Jesus name.
12. My Father! My Father! Send your warring angels to go and expose and then destroy every evil power that wants me to remain in this state of shame, in Jesus name.
13. By the power of the Holy Ghost I refuse to wear the garment of extreme poverty, untimely death, and sickness, Let every garment inherited from my ancestors, working against me, backfire, in Jesus name.
14. My Father, open my spiritual eyes to identify the evil garments meant to put me in tragedy, Every evil power from my village using any spiritual monitoring gadgets like mirrors, or crystal balls, go blind by the fire of the Holy Ghost, in Jesus name.
15. O God arise and visit my case that seems impossible, let every good thing the spirit of shame and disgrace had taken away from me be returned sevenfold, in Jesus name.
Pastor Nathaniel
This is a great article but I’m not sure I can agree that most shame is caused by something we did to ourselves, or in disobedience to God, although I’m sure those are true in many cases. What about children who grow up shrouded in shame because of things done TO them, and not BY them? Or when as an adult we’ve been shamed because we tried to stand up against something that wasn’t right, in a respectful way, and we were shamed, and even shunned, instead. Shame is often PUT ON a person BY someone older or in authority, like a parent, or a teacher, or a pastor, for instance. Or a child can be relentlessly shamed or even disgraced by a peer, such as a schoolyard bully. Children that grow up in extreme poverty often feel shame, even once they’ve grown up and become successful. I notice in the section that explains what causes shame and disgrace everything listed makes the victim look like the guilty party. Often, shame follows a person from childhood into their future, and is something that’s very hard to shake, no matter what caused it. Even disgrace can be because a person is falsely accused, or someone just assumed something that is far from the truth, yet a rumor starts and spreads like a wildfire. Once a rumor starts it’s very hard to defend yourself, since it takes on a life of its own. Many would prefer to believe a lie rather than take the time to check it out first. And that INCLUDES Christian people. There’s so much more to this issue of shame than the thought that we must have done it to ourselves. Sometimes that may be so, but that’s only part of it. People lifted up in pride seldom feel shame; usually they’re the ones that end up trying to shame others that dare to defy them, even when they’re clearly wrong about something. A truly prideful person won’t go down without a fight, and they’ll resist the very idea that they might be completely wrong about something. It often causes than to double down rather than repent, or apologize. (Of course there are exceptions for that)
I take full responsibility for anything I did to myself and make no excuses for it. But I won’t repent for what was done TO me, by a pastor no less, or anything done TO me when I was a child (not by parents in my case), that led to me having a sense of shame that has followed me into adulthood. Please consider that we don’t need more shame in our lives by believing we somehow must always deserve it. I feel I’ve forgiven the ones that hurt me but that doesn’t automatically remove any shame I feel because of the things that were done to me recently, or even from many years ago. The article overall though, is very good. But please consider that people who deal with shame on a daily basis, have always felt it even when we know logically that WE didn’t cause it. In those cases, it’s the ones that caused those things, that SHOULD feel shame, but almost never do.
Good day thanks for the in-depth analysis of this post It’s well appreciated. I look forward to do a part 2 and 3 of the same so I will take into consideration that. I wanted to introduce it and give some version of the prayers to accompany the introduction. You are very knowledgeable. Incase there is anything spiritual I can do for you I will gladly do it. Remember the Bible says in Proverbs 27:17,”As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Pastor Nathaniel
Thank you for responding to my comment. You seem like a humble and genuine person. My former pastor has been in leadership since his own father retired as pastor, and the torch got passed down to him. That was quite a while back so he’s known in our parish. (In Louisiana we have parishes, not counties). But from being in his church for so long, and having taken the secretaries place temporarily, I got to see him up close not only in church services, but other settings as well. He could turn the charm on or off depending on who his audience was. None of us are perfect, but shouldn’t we be able to expect something more from our pastor than “I’m only human” which seems to be a cop-out, an excuse for bad behavior from someone that is supposed to know better, and lead by example. He liked to call people out, and make accusations from the pulpit; he came close but never actually named names. I suspect he would have named names if he was sure he wouldn’t get sued. He would stare directly at the one he was referring to, looking directly in the eyes of the person, making sure everyone knew who he was talking about. Try defending yourself from unfounded accusations, to an entire congregation full of people. People that know you know it’s not true, but why should we be put in that position in the first place? In my case he never once discussed any issues with me first, which violated the scriptures in Matthew 18. He was basing those accusations on his own preconceived assumptions. Over the years the church I loved going to at first, lost the manifest presence of God. I felt like I was on my own, even in a church full of people. There were rules and regulations, but no real life and very little grace. Eventually God told me to go, and to be sure and wipe the dust off my feet as I left. Before I left, God spoke one word to me, and I didn’t even know what it meant at first. When I prayed about what was happening there, He said “Ichabod”, and I kept hearing that when I thought about the church. I knew it didn’t sound good so I looked it up. It means “the glory of the Lord has departed” I was blown away because that’s what I sensed was happening, but didn’t really want to believe that. A church that once thrived and was alive was dying a slow death. The pastor always seemed angry when there was a move of the Holy Spirit that didn’t fit the pattern of how a church should behave, according to him. He wanted it to be church as usual, and when it wasn’t going his way, he’d find ways to shut things down. I might have stayed longer than I should have, but I stayed hoping things would get better. It didn’t, it got worse. I was being spiritually abused, but didn’t even know what to call it. Others before me had come and gone, and early on I, like many others, assumed they were backslidden. Now, I don’t assume anything. I’m starting to believe most of the ones that left saw what was going on, and may have tried to meet with the pastor, but he wasn’t the type to admit he could be wrong about anything. Some had no choice but to leave.
I am very sorry to hear what you went through, Its so painful especially coming from the one you trust the most, but remember what the Bible says, in John 10:11-14, “I am the Good Shepherd. The Good Shepherd lays down His [own] life for the sheep. The hired worker, who isn’t the shepherd and doesn’t own the sheep, sees the wolf coming, deserts the sheep, and runs away. So the wolf snatches them and scatters them, “I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me.” Remember that the Lord loves you very much irrespective of what others think of you we see in the Book of Mark 2:17, When Jesus heard that, he told them, “Healthy people don’t need a physician, but sick ones do. I did not come to call righteous people, but sinners.” No wonder Jesus is still calling us to come to Him no matter our condition. Isaiah 1:18, Come now, let us set things right, says the LORD: Though your sins be like scarlet, they may become white as snow; Though they be red like crimson, they may become white as wool. No one is perfect (Luke 18:19 and Romans 3:10) So lets judge less and show more love to each other just as our father does to us even when we don’t deserve. Keep the good faith and know that the lord loves you the most.
Thank you so much pastor . Very powerful and inspiring. You helped me
To God be the glory