Brethren, we all face some disappointments at some point in our lives. It could be in our relationships, marriage, business, ministry, workplace, life situation, etc. I do not know what you have gone through or what you are going through, but there are always disappointments that we must overcome. What do you do when you get disappointed? Let me ask you again, what is your response to disappointment? Is it to go back to our old ways or is it to worship God? How do you overcome your disappointment?
We have lots of examples of people in the Bible who wrestled with disappointment:
•Women carrying the pain of years and years of infertility (measured month by month)—Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Samson’s mother, the Shunammite woman, Elizabeth.
•Joseph served for years with faithfulness and integrity inside a prison for a crime he did not commit; after correctly interpreting the dreams of fellow prisoners with access to the pharaoh, his hopes of being freed were dashed when the cupbearer forgot him.
•David was anointed as future king, but the years dragged on as he was chased by a mentally ill king consumed by paranoia.
•The Psalmists anguished numerous times: “How long, O Lord?”
All these people suffered dearly, but instead of being bitter towards the Lord, they worshipped Him. Job 13:15 This should be our response. By worshipping you’re putting your trust in the Lord. You’re saying, I might not know why this happened, but I know that You are good. 2 Samuel 12:19-20.
Let’s say you have been fasting and walking in obedience for God to answer a specific prayer, but God didn’t answer that prayer. Due to God not meeting your expectations you stop walking in obedience. Does this show someone who is serious? This shows someone who wanted to put on an act for God to answer. What was Job’s immediate reaction to his trials and tribulations? He worshipped!
During your disappointments, you can either dwell on the negative, or you can focus on Christ. Keeping your mind on the Lord and the love of God will help your feet from stumbling. By doing so, you learn to trust in God’s will. What’s your response going to be? The next move you make after disappointment is crucial to your spiritual life.
It’s either your disappointment is going to drive you away from God or it is going to drive you to God. God understands how you feel. Talk to Him about your questions. Talk to Him about your doubts. Talk to Him about your confusion. He knows that you are struggling with these things and more. God already knows how you feel. Don’t try to hide your emotions, but instead bring them to Him.
God is using your disappointments to do something great in you. Every tear and all your unmet expectations in this life is an opportunity to look to Christ. You might not be able to see what your disappointment is doing. But just trust in the Lord that he will use your disappointments to help you see Him in a way that you’ve never seen Him before. Allow God to use it to work in you and to guide you in the right direction. After all God’s greatest goal is to conform us into the image of His Son?
Remember God’s plan is the best and more beautiful and greater than all our disappointments. When we include God in our “plans” we learn to appreciate God’s plan. Since in the long run, we can look back and realise that everything that happened to us was part of God’s plan for our lives.
Disappointments like what you have faced, I believe also turned you into a stronger believer than you were. The Bible in 1 Corinthians 10:13 says,No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
The way to overcome disappointment doesn’t change, because the key is re-focusing on God, and He doesn’t change. He is good, and He is faithful all the time. No matter what.
Always remember that a good and loving God is in control. He can’t allow anything disappointment to touch our lives without His express permission, with a perfect purpose. If God allows disappointment to darken our days, it is His good gift of a “something better” later. Disappointment may be preparation for something in the future. It may prevent something bad we couldn’t possibly foresee.
We should give thanks for all things (Ephesians 5:20), in all things (1 Thessalonians 5:18). When we give thanks for something God has chosen to allow into our lives, we are acknowledging He is Lord.We are acknowledging that He has the right to allow disappointment to cast its shadow on our lives, and it keeps us connected rightly God. That’s what trust looks like, and it pleases the Lord. It also helps us maintain an eternal perspective, that everything—everything—is part of a much bigger picture we cannot see.
Always wait on the Lord through your prayers daily. Be willing to listen to the voice of God. Don’t try to drown out His voice to pursue your own will. Sometimes disappointments happen because we fail to trust in His timing. Just because God doesn’t do something today doesn’t mean that He is not going to do it tomorrow. Always remember this, God sees what you can’t see and He knows what you don’t know. His timing is always right on time! Lamentations 3:25